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Children and Gender Confusion

3/19/2014

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Remember this article?  I feel like it was the one that started them all.  

Little boy wants to dress up like Daphne from Scooby Doo and his mom posts, in the title of her entry, that this implies he's gay.

But no worries, because in the body of the entry, you realize that was simply a bait.  She then writes "Or he's not.  I don't care.  He is still my son.  And he is 5.  And I am his mother.  And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don't want to know you."

I remember when I first read that feeling offended for her.  How could ANYONE dare to have a problem with this?  Who would think to be so callous as to spout anything negative at a little boy who just wants to dress up for Halloween?  Even if it is a little odd.

Now that the feeds have been absolutely SATURATED with stories like this, I've learned to put my critical reasoning skills to better use.

She, like every other blogger after her, sets the stage for inevitable conflict.  They want the conflict; it drives stats.  I refuse to post the litany of these articles because I refuse to give them a bump in referral hits.

Now I just roll my eyes and pass on them.  They're all the same.  Each demanding respect for allowing their boys to dress as girls and play with My Little Pony dolls, or steering their girls away from pink things and more towards "boy toys" like race cars and Legos.  We've all seen them.  It's just...

C'mon now.

Instead of trying to dictate what our kids play with in an attempt to show how forward-thinking we are about gender-stereotypes, how about we just let them be kids who like to play with toys of any sort?  

And how about we stop patting ourselves on the back for going out of our way to confuse the very clear distinctions between the two sexes.  No matter how many bags of lip gloss your son wants to have, he's going to be a little boy.  No matter how many Wrestlemanias your daughter begs to go to, she's still going to be a little girl.  

And no matter how many times you allow your son to dress in skirts or your daughter to pull on boxers, their biology will remain unaltered.  That includes sex change operations and hormone injections.

Also, this sort of gender confusion does not necessarily mean your child is gay.  But again, throwing that into the mix is a great way to solicit a jump in stats.  

*Shakes head*

We need to have open, honest communication on this topic.  Blog posts like those I reference above are not helpful.  If anything, they're harmful because they seek to divide. They seek to cause in-fighting and paranoia (everyone's out to get me and my son because we're different!).  There are children in serious jeopardy because of this confusion, and patting ourselves on the backs for the bang-up job we're doing with this saturation of gender confusion is not the right course of action.  It's just not.

I don't have the answer on how best to respond to this growing trend, but I just can't take the constant stream of articles that decry any sort of acknowledgement that boys and girls (and thus, men and women) are different; they are.  Does that mean that they are not equals? No; they have equal dignity.  But they are inherently different from one another. Consistently ignoring that (and worse... teaching our children to actively ignore it) is a 
grave error.  

Kids growing up in this climate are the reason we've got fifty billion "genders" on Facebook, men waging legal war against a woman's right to use a private bathroom, and young kids (and their PARENTS) fighting to dictate biology without bothering to think of long-term health consequences.

This is only the tip of the iceberg.  Trying to blur the lines between male and female have led folks to be hyper-aware of not only gender, but sexuality and thus, sex.  

Methinks that's why textbooks like this exist.  It's also why lessons like this exists.

We are hurting our children way, WAY more than we are helping them.  That much is apparent.  We are teaching them it's okay to disregard facts - scientific facts - and create an alternate reality that they then expect everyone else to go along with.  I can't imagine that being a good coping strategy for such a real, all-areas-of-life entrenched problem.  

I just don't have clue one where to begin, or even how to protect my son from falling victim to this sort of confusion.  It's like parents are expected (and even bullied into) encouraging this sort of behavior.

I was recently invited to a birthday party with my son in which the parent informed me the boys would be dressing up as princesses alongside the girls.

No thank you.  I opted to decline that one.  Vince is curious about women's clothing sometimes (my veil and bras come to mind), but I would not actively encourage him cross dressing, ESPECIALLY at such a young age.  

I'm just... ay.

What the heck ever happened to kids being kids?

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Dom
3/19/2014 03:59:14 pm

Nrgh. I think the issue I have here is the refusal to accept that there ARE differences - distinct, irrevocable differences - between boys and girls. Modern would-be interpretation is that because they're equal, they're the same. Which is NOT the case, and in my mind, creates massive confusion for kids when they're coming into their sexuality and everyone now tells them that 'it's normal to be confused'.

DO NOT GET ME STARTED THERE.

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Gina
3/19/2014 04:48:30 pm

That is the crux of my issue. I really don't like that we are, in many ways, being told we're bigoted or unaccepting when we acknowledge the inherent differences between men and women.

That being said, I do acknowledge there are cases of folks with legitimate gender confusion. These aren't the folks I'm talking about.

I'm talking about the kids who experience typical confusion as we all do, only instead of having support getting through the confusion, they're forced to experience a hyper-sensationalized myriad of situations specifically geared at deepening the confusion.

These kids don't stand a chance when they're constantly being barraged with this "new normal."

I think it is very unfair and psychologically harmful to children to be forced to experience these waves of gender-saturation, many times by people who matter in their lives.

Transgender Day in elementary schools - WHY should elementary school children even begin to need "celebrate" this?

LGBT (and now "Q" for "Questioning") Days, again in elementary schools - WHY is this sort of things being brought up at all?

Petitions to have Bert and Ernie an "out" couple on Sesame Street (because apparently even the preschoolers shouldn't be spared an overly early sex education).

Now we've got parents making ludicrous requests like "boys can dress as princesses, and if not, let them color," encouraging "cross dressing" days as fundraising events for sports teams, and suggesting they know better than doctors in attempting to prescribe CHEMICALS that will attempt altering the physiology of their CHILD'S body.

Ya know, in India, little girls are many times mutilated and "turned into boys" so parents don't have to provide dowries upon marriage. One of the first articles I wrote for MBF. These little girls (turned "men") are raised as boys and many times only learn of the tragic reality when they attempt to have children and cannot.

People did (and should continue) to be outraged by this.

I feel similarly in trying to give a child hormone injections before puberty. There is NO WAY you can honestly tell me a kid's fully worked through any possible psychological issues, social issues and even emotional issues to a full enough extent that they're fully capable of making a decision that will ABSOLUTELY change their entire lives.

But hey... we're a progressive people, aren't we?

We tout our adherence to science and fact, yet we constantly strive to use science to bend reality so it conforms to our own warped sense of truth.

That's why we call the murder of innocent children "abortion."

That's' why we call the murder / suicide of the sick and elderly "euthanasia."

That's why we call homosexual unions "gay marriage."

None of it is real. None of it is factual. It's all a meticulously painted facade that seeks to alter reality into something that doesn't leave us admitting the tragedy of our own arrogance - the guilt of our incomprehensible madness.

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Anabelle Hazard link
4/21/2014 01:45:23 am

Oh my. Yes on the conflict seeking blogging. And you are so right our children are the ones that lose more in the battle.

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