Hair Question

Hair. I've got a lot of it.

I get this is a really ridiculous question to ask on a Catholic Mom blog, but I figure there's gotta be someone out there who has some suggestions.

I'm 30 years old and I'm beginning to go gray. I'm not concerned with that so much as what it's doing to the cleanliness of my hair.

This picture (taken a while ago) shows a part in my hair.  This is typically where the problem is most noticeable.  So you can understand why it's beginning to annoy me given how prominent that particular area is.

A few weeks ago, I noticed that my hair feels like wax in certain areas.  I hadn't changed shampoo or conditioner, and I hadn't done anything different with my hair.  Why, all of the sudden, was my hair acting funny?

I tried washing it several times, because I understand that every now and again gunk builds up and needs to be washed away with a good clarifying shampoo.  However, nothing worked.  

So I Googled the issue, and sure enough, as hair goes gray, the roots get coarse and absorb conditioner and oils a lot more than they used to.  As a result, some areas get waxy. I tried doing a combination of baking soda and apple cider vinegar (as some folks suggested).  Aside from making my hair smell like a salad, the progress was minimal.  I still had waxy hair.

I tried Listerine.  Truthfully, the Listerine did work much better, but it left my ends brittle (even WITH the conditioner).

I get that my hair is changing on account of age.  But there's gotta be a better way of cleaning my hair.  

Thoughts?  I donate my hair in April, so please nothing drastic as I'd like my hair to be somewhat decent for the person who gets it next.  Thanks!

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