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One Man's Abortion Sorrow

4/19/2012

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I just got the most touching message ever.  It was from a reader (who will remain anonymous per his request).  I'm reposting with his permission, though.  I'm hoping he'll be kind enough to guest post a more in-depth entry, but at the very least, maybe he'll be kind enough to stick around and answer commentary that gets left behind.

I have to admit being incredibly surprised when I got this entry.  It's from a family member that I didn't think even knew my blog existed.  Also, I'd never - EVER - heard him tell this story before.  It honestly made me wonder how many other people close to me have been / are grappling with this pain.


His message is below.  I edited it a bit so others who don't know him can follow the story better.  I also removed names and identifying information so he could keep his identity private. 

I'd also like to take this time to thank him again for sharing this, and for allowing me to share it with all of you.  THANK YOU!  You've moved me beyond words.

I read your most recent article last night.  You have a great way of explaining the unexplainable and that's a nifty gift.

I feel compelled to write now because of your last article.  It might seem strange to you because I am a man, father and grandfather. 

Long ago in the days of walking to school uphill both ways in bare feet, I got my lady friend pregnant.  We were young.  Against my wishes, she chose to abort our child with a homemade concoction she learned from her mother.  I pleaded with her not to do it and I did everything to keep her from drinking that sludge, but I failed and my baby never made it into this world breathing.

I'm married with two grown children now, three grandchildren and one on the way.  Not a day goes by that I don't think of my angel baby.  I failed her.  I know she's with God, but she should have had a chance to be with me first.  Her younger brothers (my two boys) never got to meet her.  I believe she's been their guardian angel all these years.  I wish they got a chance to play and grow together. 

I can't help wondering if I missed my chance to walk her down the aisle.  She would've been married by now and probably would have given me a few grandbabies.  I'll never know them, my other kids will never know them, the other grandkids won't know them.  An entire world has been closed off to us because of her mother's choice - and I had no say.

Men can feel this loss too.  I feel it every day and I battle jealousy like you.  My friends have all had their daddy's little girl.  When my boys were in high school, I never got to participate in the father-daughter dances that others did.  That was real hard on me because I believe my angel baby was my baby girl.  And that Butterfly Kisses song they play at weddings is like a bayonet to my guts.  I'm an old man and I cry every time I hear it.

I'll keep John in my prayers.  You and Vincent, too.  It is a very heavy load to carry around.  Like you said it doesn't heal.  But thank you for expressing what I never have.  For men, this isn't a conversation you can have.  Your outlet has become my outlet.  I hope you continue to be blessed and I hope you continue to write out your thoughts like this.  They are insightful and moving.  I'm streaming tears with you. 


My wife says to tell you she appreciates your comments.  I had her read your article and she understands better how much I hurt sometimes.  Almost want to send it to my kids, too.

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Recovering Lutheran link
4/21/2012 03:13:38 pm

This was a hard story for your reader to share, since in the abortion debate modern society tends to treat the opinions of men as unworthy (unless they are in favor of abortion). May your reader be blessed and comforted by our Lord, who gathers all of His children in His arms.

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Laurie link
4/25/2012 07:26:48 pm

My brother's girlfriend aborted his baby when he in his twenties. He lived a very difficult life until his death at 33, and I believe that loss was part of his struggle. It horrifies me that so many young men give away their choice (sadly, unknowingly- I am sure most would never imagine the women they love choosing the death of their child), and I worry for my boys as they get older. This letter is incredible touching. I am sad that men are pushed out of this discussion, but every "pro-choice" women I know won't even consider that men have any rights in this issue.

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Gina
4/25/2012 11:33:10 pm

My deepest sympathies, Laurie. That's incredibly heartbreaking for your entire family!

I understand what you mean about being sad for these men. For all the "choice" that's thrown around and all the claims of "this is MY body" these women always forget that a man helped create the body growing within her. It ISN'T just about them and their choice to manipulate their bodies. If it was, there wouldn't be a raging debate.

It's the child... but if these women admitted that to themselves, they'd be admitting how incredibly wrong they were about their "choice" or their desire to support the "choice" of others.

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